Urban dictionary defines Phubbing as the art of looking at your device while someone is trying to communicate with you.
We have all done it. We are all guilty of it. And we can change this behavior that impacts the human connection we are designed to have.
Here are some interesting smartphone statistics:
- 79 percent reach for their phone within 15 minutes of waking up.
- Americans check their phones an average of 221 times per day.
- Two-thirds check their phone even when it is not vibrating or ringing.
- 70 to 80 percent of drivers use their smartphone while driving. Please stop!
- Adults spend 4.7 hours per day on their smartphones
See yourself in more than half of these statistics? The majority of us are guilty of all five.
Phubbing, or being connected at the hip to your phone, blocks authentic connections. Relationships are hindered when someone is not fully present in the moment.
Think about what message it sends when you are having a meaningful conversation with someone and they are looking down at their phone. Or even if their phone is face up on the table in plain sight. It screams, my device is more important than you.
You lose important qualities when you are staring down versus up. Eye contact is one of the most intimate ways you can connect with your spouse, partner, best friend and even colleagues. It let’s them know you value what they say and the moment you are sharing with them. It adds warmth to the conversation.
I challenge you, take a look at your usage on your smartphone. Just about every phone has a usage tracker now. Look at where you are spending your time. Is it text messages, social media or actual phone calls?
My phone use averages for the last 7 days:
- 4 hours 18 minutes of phone usage per day
- Instagram – 1 hour 5 minutes per day
- Text messaging – 56 minutes per day
- 130 pick ups per day
- 249 notifications per day
Be bold. Comment your stats below. It is the first step in understanding your usage. Then you can develop a “put the phone down” plan. Not a bad goal to have in 2019!