The Essence Festival is one of the largest gatherings of Black Girl Magic in America, also known as a party with a purpose. It started as a one-time festival to celebrate the 25th anniversary of Essence Magazine, a magazine geared towards Black women. The festival took off and the rest was history.
On my way to work this morning, I was listening to the Yes Girl! podcast that is produced by Essence. They played a clip from Tyler Perry’s interview at this year’s Essence Fest, and it was a WORD! It was just the motivation I needed to hear at that moment.
I had a tough week at work last week. Wedding drama has started to seep in. I feel overworked with my side-hustles. And I have three more work conferences to attended in other cities before I get married on Sept 21st. 33 days! Yay!
I had a moment where I just questioned a lot of things happening in my life. Why do I put up with this? Why is this person in my life? What could I have done differently? Several things have been swirling around in my head. I hit auto-pilot because I have a job to do. And I knew that was not the solution.
But when I started listening to this podcast this morning and I heard Tyler Perry gave a word to me on this Monday. Things became much clearer to me. I’m not going to give away the entire 19-minute talk, but there are some serious #messages in this chat that I felt inclined to share.
Why did they get the most of the money when you did the work?
“We can’t keep working for someone else. You have got to own stuff and pass on to your children and HIRE someone.”
This hit me hard in the first 3 minutes of the interview. I never thought of myself as an entrepreneur. I always told myself that I was better working for someone than working for myself. HA! My how that has changed, and it changed quickly. Ever since I graduated from my Georgetown program, my outlook on working in corporate America has shifted. I honestly thought I could not do it. I didn’t believe I had many great ideas. Wrong! My problem now is that I have too many great ideas.
Just do good
“As Black people, we have to come into this level of professionalism that is beyond the norm of Black people. We need to dismantle this myth – not starting on time and cussing customers out. You should have a level of excellence in what you do. The way you do one thing is the way you do all things.”
Another WORD from Mr. Perry. I say this all of the time. I wish my people, Black people, didn’t fall into the stereotypes of what the general population thinks of us. When we walk into a room, there is an automatic assumption about us, our behavior, and our delivery. The only way to change that is to dismantle the myths.
Show up on time. Stop making excuses for why you were late. Be professional, even when it is your own business. Don’t have the mindset of, I own this, so it’s my rules. It should be I own this so let me present myself and this company accordingly.
Just do good. As simple as that.
If you eat a little, you can eat a long time
“Sometimes you have to take a step back and say I am just going to eat a little bit and make it work. Because Black people know how to take a little bit and make a whole lot out of it. We know how to make $1 out of 15cents. So why do we not do this for our businesses?”
I am thankful that I had a great childhood. There were not many moments where I saw my family struggle to make ends meet. We had food on the table, and the lights were on. I do remember small moments where we had to shift around finances to make things work, but we did it.
The question that Tyler asked is very relevant. Why are we not doing this for our businesses or our overall career development, making a $1 out of 15cents. Even if you don’t want to become an entrepreneur, you should still be investing in your future. Take a class. Invest in a conference. Subscribe to something that enhances your learning or trade.
A little bit can go a long way, and if anyone knows this, it is us.
I haven’t made any mistakes.
“Everything I thought was a mistake God turned it around and worked it out for me.” – Tyler PerryTweet
When he said the first statement, the crowd started with the “here we go” sounds, but he dropped that next line, the audience went wild. This statement was the most powerful line in the entire interview.
It made recent challenges and mistakes seem minor. Instead of looking at things like a mistake, I envisioned them as stepping stones. I thought to myself, “How do I figure out what to do different next time?” versus just harping on the current outcome.
I didn’t expect to get out of my funk this morning. And surely I didn’t expect Tyler Perry to drop several gems that hit me like a ton of bricks. But I did, and he did.
Check out the video for yourself. Let me know what you think. Did it help you sort a few things out in your head? And just so y’all know, Essence Fest 2020 is where you can find me.